Hey,For as long as I can remember, I seem to be more turned on by average-looking women than beautiful women. I'm not saying that I get turned on by women that are not the least bit attractive. For lack of a better way of expressing it, if a woman that is a "10" and another that is a "six" walk into the room together and both are willing to have sex with me, I would pick the six. I've never understood this about myself. I am completely aware that the women I choose to sleep with are usually fives or sixes even if there is a 10 standing next to them that is equally willing. What could possibly be the reason for this?
Eric from Boston, MAHere’s the plan: You take the average five, and I’ll take the perfect 10. Everybody wins, right? In reality, numbers are better suited for math classes and accountants than for women. There is an infinite number of possibilities that may have contributed to your attraction to certain types of females. It’s not much different than men who describe being attracted to women who are taller, shorter, heavier, thinner, or who have other specific characteristics that arouse the male senses.
Our attraction is complex, and there are numerous factors that influence what catches our eye. Maybe it was the crush on the average-looking babysitter or the perfect 10 girlfriend who broke your heart that helped shape your attraction. Could it be a defense mechanism against rejection or a way to cope with fears or insecurity? It would take a lot of time and exploration, and even then we may not find the answers you’re looking for. Maybe asking “why” is less important than asking “how” you feel about it.
If you have no anxiety or ambivalent feelings, then go with it. Embrace who you are and make the most of the opportunities that present themselves. Love and happiness are blind to things like numbers.
find her g-spot
Hi Doc,I've only had sexual experience with one girl, and she has only had me. While clitoral orgasms have never been a problem, I have had a question about the G-spot. Penile penetration does not provide the desired response. I have not been able to find her G-spot, and she has failed to locate it unilaterally. Now, I have digitally penetrated her a couple of times, and both times, after awhile, she has made me stop so she can go pee. Allegedly, urination did take place. Is that all it was, or should I next time encourage a release? Is it just urinary, or orgasmic in nature?
Thanks for your help, Doc.
AJ from NYIt sounds like you both are having a great time walking down the path of sexual exploration, and it’s great to hear you’re trying different methods. But let’s backtrack for a second in regards to the G-spot. Sometimes the pressure of searching creates performance anxiety, so make sure you both talk about how you feel during this search. Keep it fun, light and easy.
When engaging in G-spot play, one of the most common occurrences is the feeling of having to urinate when pressure is applied to the G-spot. How can you blame the body? The G-spot, urethra and bladder are all close neighbors in the same anatomical neighborhood. Many women have reported this feeling, especially near the onset of orgasm, as pressure is placed on the urethra and bladder. It’s recommended that a woman urinate before sexual interaction to empty the bladder and prevent the accidental urinary release, however unlikely that may be.
The G-spot is located about an inch inside the upper wall of the vagina and has a unique, rough texture that feels different than the rest of the vaginal muscle. It can be located with your finger or by using a speculum sideways while inside the vagina. If you want more detailed tips on locating and stimulating the G-spot, I suggest buying Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to the G-Spot (www.puckerup.com).
In addition to a great curved G-spot toy, a few fingering techniques include the classic two-finger "come hither" motion, the two-finger side-to-side windshield wiper, and the two-finger twisting corkscrew. Good positions for G-spot stimulation include missionary style with a pillow propped beneath her back/pelvis (accentuates G-spot stimulation) as well as doggy style with her head lowered and the male entering from a high-to-low angle.
she gets fisted
Hello,While cruising through a free porn tube site, I came across a video called “she gets fisted.” I didn’t click on it nor did I watch it. There’s no way this is real or common, is it? What do you know about fisting?
While some women prefer a finger or two inside their vagina, other vaginas enjoy a bit more to feel snug as a bug. Fisting is an alternative behavior practiced by a small minority, where a hand and sometimes more enters the vagina and/or rectum of a person. The fact is, those who engage in fisting (both males and females) do it because it turns them on and it feels pleasurable.
I know it may be tough to imagine, but we all have our own versions of what feels good and what we like to get us off. Vaginas and rectums have the ability to stretch and accommodate more than we realize, and our bodies have the capability to return back to their prestretching state after a fisting session. Of course, as with many extreme sex practices, there are risks and necessary safety precautions that should be understood before engaging in this behavior.
Basically, learn the practice and find a mentor to gain experience if it interests you. If you don’t know what Crisco is used for, what a duck-billed entry is or what lubes to use, it’s probably best to stick to fisting porn than the real thing.